can't control destiny

Recreation of the Roxydoll Bulletin Board

Many of the blog followers I have on here came from the days of the Roxydoll Bulletin Board. After setting up a group on facebook and discussion, we have decided for a new bulletin board! It is hosted with ProBoards and is free, so there are limitations, but it works for now.

RoxydollUBB, resurrected


I should also add - Victoria, Genevieve, Melissa, Belinda, and other lj friends who I did not meet through Roxydoll - come join! You'll like it! :)


I posted lots of pictures of facebook and don't really feel like posting a lot anymore, but sadly, Hurricane Sandy wiped out the LBI house. We had 41" of standing water outside, and 21" inside the house. It is all drained now and everything on the first floor of the house is ruined.

As we saw the house yesterday:

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Here is a picture from summer 2011, before the new floor was put into the living room:


Every bed, sheet, mattress, dresser, chair, table, lamp, flooring, electrical outlet, baseboard heating, etc etc etc is ruined. We had to throw out all of the contents of the shed - bikes, boogie boards, beach chairs, beach umbrellas, toys, coolers and everything else.

The house will be gutted and thrown out in the near future -we are just trying to coordinate everything and all of the work. We brought home some things that we were able to save, and they all fit in one large plastic bin - my grandfather's oil paintings of the beaches, some embroidery my mom did, my sea glass collection that I have been saving for years, a lighthouse lamp that was up high, the little wooden giraffe in my room, and a couple of other paintings/wall hangings. Everything else? Gone.

I started to make an amazon wishlist to catalog/organize the things that were ruined that need to be replaced (this is not a plea for gifts - it's my list to just show the weird strange things that get ruined in this type of situation.) So crazy.

7.9.12 To Bermuda and Back!

I meant to post about our trip before it happened, but things just got super busy before we left. It was the first time I've been out of the country in years, and also, the first "big" vacation I took with Dave. We've done some trips like Washington DC and LBI before, but this was "bigger."

I posted under 100 pictures to an album on facebook, and for now, I will use pictures from there to show the trip. If I remember, I'll post the others in here at some point.

Here is some information about the trip:

We sailed on the Norwegian Star, out of New York City.

The trip details - We left on Sunday evening, arrived in Bermuda early Wednesday morning, left Bermuda Friday early evening, arrived back in NYC early Sunday morning.

We got a really nice stateroom with a balcony. It was a bit small since it was a stateroom on a ship and not a hotel room, but the balcony was pretty sweet.
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I ended up buying all of the photographs that the ship photographer took of us. Because I hit the magic number, I earned a CD of all of the shots in digital format. Awesome!

Here is our embarkation shot:
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As we sailed away, Dave and I walked around all of the upper decks and watched the New York skyline go by. We also got pina coladas to drink as we made our way into the open ocean. My travel agent sent us chocolate covered strawberries, which was super sweet. They were delicious! That night, there was a show with some previews of all of the upcoming shows, and Dave was pulled up on stage to make this sort of "man pile" of all guys holding each other up.

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Monday the 2nd was the first full day at sea. There was always a lot to do at sea, and I wrote down what we did each day, but I don't have that in front of me and as I type this so they all seem to blend. So, on sea days, we had yummy food, played shuffleboard, went to see a daytime show of a magician that was really cool, hung out by the pool and went in the hot tubs. There was lots of live music at various points in the day, so we did that often as well. All of the shows were really good - each night there was a show, and I *think* we made it to each major show, but missed some of the comedy/improvisation type shows.

Monday evening was also formal night on the ship. Since we cruised Norwegian, it was really "formal night if you want it to be formal night," but we dressed up. That night, we got our pictures taken by the cruise photographer and then ended up having to wait to get into the main dining room (which didn't happen on the other nights). While we were waiting, the Hotel Director who we had met the previous day and really hit it off with Dave, took us to one of the specialty restaurants on board as his guests, and we had a great Italian dinner and free wine.

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The second sea day, July 3rd, was the first full sea day. In the evening, we went to the regular main dining room - and continued to eat all of our dinners there, even when in port in Bermuda. The dinners in Bermuda were very expensive, and there weren't that many great restaurants near our ship. The food in the complimentary dining room was really good, so there didn't seem to be any point to eat elsewhere!

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The following morning, on July 4th, we arrived in Bermuda. I cried when I saw land in the distance - not like, boohoo sobbing and complete waterworks, but my eyes definitely teared. I was super excited, and happy to sea land, and I was able to call my mom and say hi and ask about Turbo and all that kind of stuff. It was just really neat to slowly approach land and watch it get bigger as time goes by.

We got off the ship, and there was a kiosk for watersports very near our ship. Dave immediately decided that he was going to go jetskiing, and I walked around the shops and sights while he did so (it was an hour excursion). He came back, and we went back to the ship for lunch and a quick nap. Then, we went to the Royal Navy Dockyard and Maritime Museum for sightseeing and our dolphin swim!

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The dolphin swim was absolutely amazing. The two dolphins with us were Ely and Marley, mother and daughter. They were so sweet, and so smooth and so much fun. They made cute little noises, did tricks for us, and we got our pictures with the dolphins, kissed them, and just had a blast.
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After the swim, we wanted to find a place called "Glass Beach" (that really might be called "Black Bay") and it was a bit of a challenge since not all the locals knew about it. We eventually found a woman and her son, and the boy walked us there. It was AMAZING. The entire ground was filled with pieces of sea glass, and we collected a lot.

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The following day, July 5th, we woke up super early, ate breakfast, and took the earliest bus out of King's Wharf to Horseshoe Bay. Horseshoe Bay is a really nice beach for swimming and snorkeling. The sand is pink, the water is crystal clear, and it is just beautiful.

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The above picture was taken in a cove to the side of Horseshoe Bay - the actual horseshoe portion is much larger, but we really liked this little side cove a lot.

After a few hours of swimming and snorkeling, we took a bus to Hamilton, the capital city. We did some shopping and then went out to lunch at the "Pickled Onion." After lunch, we took another bus deeper into Bermuda to go to the Bermuda Aquarium and Zoo. The flamingos were my absolute favorite (and I've been thinking about seeing these flamingos since we booked our trip, since I remembered seeing them in Bermuda in 1991).

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After the zoo, we went deeper still on the bus to the Crystal Caves. We only toured one out of the two caves, and that was really neat as well. By that point, we were super tired, and went back to the ship to shower, nap and eat dinner.

The last day in Bermuda, we decided we wanted to try out another beach, and then head back to Horseshoe Bay since it was so pretty.

We started out at Church Bay.

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And then moved onto Horseshoe Bay.

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We had to be back to the ship by 4:30 pm, so we wanted to make sure were didn't go too far out and miss the curfew (cause the ship sailed at 5:00 pm). After the beaches, it was back to the ship for lunch and a nap. Then, we went on a banana split raft that was pulled by a speedboat. It was really exciting, and a nice "finale" before we had to board the ship one last time. The boat actually went out around where the ship was docked, so it was neat to get one last excursion in as others were boarding.

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Dinner was at the ship's restaurant:

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And that night was an awesome show of (ex?)clowns who did great juggling and balance tricks. The next day they held a juggling workshop, and Dave and I learned how to juggle. We clearly need a lot more practice, but we got the basics down and had some nice rotations.

With Sean and Max of "Sharkbait," the jugglers/clowns/performers.
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The next day was a full day at sea returning back to NYC. We juggled, hung out by the pool and hot tubs, and just relaxed.

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And the following morning at 8 am, we were back in the NYC harbor.

It was truly a wonderful trip - we got to do and see so many exciting things, and were really on the same page as for timing for each beach/trip/excursion. I had purchased the Nikon J1 camera before leaving, and it really was a great camera to have along on this trip. The pictures all came out well, and each night we enjoyed loading them onto my laptop and looking at them.

It's nice to be back home, but it was really a fun, relaxing, exciting week. We met so many interesting people and I keep looking at the pictures since they make me happy.

However, sadly, as soon as we got back and had been back an hour or two, Dave started to throw up. :( He had a 101 fever, and it is now down to 100 and just feels like complete crap. I feel so badly for him since that sucks. We don't really know how he got it, but he just picked up a bug somewhere. Here's hoping he feels better quickly!!

RIP Miss Molly Belle

Sadly, my sister's dog Molly passed away late Sunday night/early Monday morning. She was diagnosed with lymphosarcoma in March 2011, and was given about a year to live. She received chemotherapy, holistic treatments, and basically every option under the sun from 3 different veterinarian practices. At one point, she was in remission, then was out of remission. We think she was basically in remission at the time of her death, but also had a pinched nerve.

On Sunday, she was affected by the pinched nerve and it subsequently hurt her paw. As a result, she was a bit quiet on Sunday, but by no means did we think it was her last day (she had other days like this and recovered just fine!)

In the end, we don't know if the cancer, the pinched nerve, or a heart attack is what took away sweet Molly. She never knew anything but lots of love and kisses, and had a great puppy dog life - it was just far too short.

One of the first pictures I took of Alyson with Molly, March 2004:

Molly in a pink bow!

The first time I held Molly (March 23, 2004)

On vacation, sleeping in hotel with Molly (June 2004)

September 2004 - LBI backyard with Molly and Tuffy

Le Petit Monstre, 2004

Molly supporting me at an MSU football game, October 2004

April 8, 2005 - Baby Rory with Molly

She was such a good girl!
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The rivers around NJ are still rising and there are more and more flooding problems. I heard that if you basement was filled with 4 feet of water, it will cost approximately $50,000 to fix it - and a lot of these homes don't have flood insurance cause these parts of NJ don't normally flood.

Ok - Dave's brother's wife's sister (Rosalie) had over 6 feet of water in her basement in Scotch Plains, NJ and everything is ruined. Her basement had been really nice - I have been there for a party. It had a tv, couch, bar, toy area - all gone. Dave's cousin and her family in Wyckoff, NJ have been out of power for 4 days. Kelly from roxydoll ubb days (remember her?) is in Wallington, NJ and posted pictures of her backyard - it's about 5 feet of water - you can't see any fences - just the posts.

Dave just sent me this picture of Fair Lawn, NJ (where he works) near River Road and Rt 20 - the middle school is in the background:

This is the mall closest to my house (there are about 10 malls all within a 10 mile radius, but this is technically one of the closest - Willowbrook in Wayne, NJ)

Really no word as of yet about our shore house in LBI. Either it's there and fine or very wet. Ya know that restaurant Daddy O that Dave and I like?

This is Daddy O now:

I don't know where on LBI this was taken, but my house is on a street that looks like this - very close to the bay and very close to the ocean:

And about 3 miles from my LBI house in Holgate, also on the island, this old 1960s car washed up on the beach after Irene:

We will probably go down this weekend and see if we have water damage. I'm feeling either way about it - awesome if we don't, if we do, we have flood insurance and I'm just glad none of us were hurt. I'm also super thankful that our primary home is fine and we are all safe. I'm back at work, and my commute is fine (no alternate routes) and everything is good. Yey!

Knitting news! I finished the hat for Hayden last night:

Two other people also finished my hat pattern recently, so I thought I would share:

Completely random, but you all know how I love interesting dishes and china patterns? I love these two from Echo Design. Want!

That's all for now - back to work!